It takes strength and commitment
to make a conscious decision to
work through confused feelings
that rape may have left you with,
but we at NRC will try and help
you through the effects of rape.
I was amazed about how quickly my family and I were able to get into NRC. it’s so good that my parents can get the support they need too.
The ISVA (Independent Sexual Violence Advisor) was great she let me talk, be angry, sad, however I wanted to feel, and I didn’t have to feel guilty about it, or worry that I was hurting other people; I was able to release all the emotions that I’d built up. I needed a lot of support because it was the worst experience of my life, my ISVA has helped me with everything, family, school, police, and getting my life back on track. I honestly thought that the police investigation would not go anywhere, it was so good to talk to someone who knew their stuff and spoke to me in a sensitive caring way, I didn’t understand the way other agencies worked and the words they used, but the ISVA at NRC explained it all clearly to me. My ISVA chased other agencies dealing with my case; she talked to organisations when my parents found things difficult.
She reassured us that our reactions were normal; she gave us all the options good and bad, mum and dad were offered counselling with NRC’s counsellors (mum took the support, dad didn’t, maybe he will one day) and I was given the options of having counselling throughout the investigation, but I decided to wait until after the court case. It took 16 months for my case to get to court, the worse thing for me was in court when the judge summed up, and went through all the sickening details of what happened to me, I know what happened , but when you hear somebody else go through all the details it hits you . All these years on it still has an effect, its mad!
I do not know what I would have done without Northamptonshire Rape Crisis. Actually without all their support through the court case before and after it, I don’t know how the family and me would have gone through it, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have gone through the ordeal or be here now.